Simple Freedom: Put Yourself First

Monday, November 14, 2011 8:00 AM

Sweet Gems

Today, let me remind you that it's not only okay to put yourself first - it's necessary.  I'm going to share with you several posts that I revisit when I'm feeling unnecessarily guilty for doing what I have to do to take care of myself.


Every now and then, you're going to have to say no. You're going to need to take a step back and make sure that YOU are okay. When you're a mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend and all around superwoman, people will come to expect things from you. It only becomes a problem when you begin to feel overwhelmed or unhappy.

When's the last time you flew on an airplane? At the beginning of every flight, the flight attendant reminds the able-bodied adults that in the case of an emergency, put your own oxygen mask on FIRST before you assist children and the elderly. Why? Because what good can you do to anyone else if you can't breathe? Are you following me?  Read more

There comes a day when we all realize that we can't please everyone. We realize that people are going to judge us no matter what we do. Even with those realizations, it's often hard to stop making decisions based on what other people will think.  But what about what you think? 

It's not about being selfish or self-absorbed, it's about being self-aware. It's okay to know yourself enough to follow your heart and trust your decisions. One way to stop placing so much emphasis on what other people think is to become your own best friend. No matter what comes and goes in this life, you will always have yourself. You should protect, nurture and handle yourself with the utmost care. The better you treat yourself, the less tolerant you will be of people in your space who don't value you the same way. It will also be easier for you to exist in your relationships without losing yourself.  Read More

When's the last time you stopped to think about how much you've grown? How far you've come? How much you've changed? It's great to have goals, hopes and dreams, but sometimes we get so caught up in how we want to be that we begin to beat ourselves up for how we are. This leads to negative self-talk and low self-esteem. There was probably a time when you were scared to do what you are doing right now. You should celebrate yourself for that.

Perfection is not only unattainable; it leaves no room for improvement. Nevermind how anyone else thinks you "ought" to be. Remember that you are already whole and worthy of all good things. With every experience, you simply grow and become more aware of it.  Read More

Keep these affirmations in mind this week and always:

I love myself.
I honor my needs and truths.
I trust my decisions.
Vulnerability and honesty are empowering.
It's okay if everyone doesn't "get it".
I don't have anything to prove to anyone.
Honoring myself first will give me the capacity and energy to honor and support others.

Have a great week!