Tuesday, July 17, 2012 12:47 AM
Today, I feel like I'm cheating a little bit on my challenge because the content I'm sharing with you is not new. But I believe my intention was to post/share something with you each day - so technically I'm still doing that. The following posts were all written for Peace Love and Pretty Things over the last three years. As you know, I'm celebrating three years of blogging, so it feels good to look back at where I've been.
All of the following posts reflect aspects of my journey from self-hate and insecurity to learning to love myself just the way I am. I'd be surprised if you didn't find pieces of your own journey in my words. I love to get feedback from you readers who tell me that our feelings and experiences are so much alike. In a big way, that gives me more motivation to follow my passion for writing and continue trying to help people.
Do You See What I See?
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Your imperfections? Your big this or small that? Do you see a reflection of criticism, thoughtless comments and judgments?
Is it easier to perceive your uniqueness as unbecoming than it is to own it as oh so right for you? Do you long for thicker hair? straighter hair? clearer skin? smaller waist? larger breasts?
Do you see all the things you can't afford, haven't accomplished and the vices you have yet to overcome?
Do you see all the people who have told you that you can't, you won't or you shouldn't? Do you see all the moving obstacles in your path? Are your eyes deep with the pain you have seen and felt?
Do you see a victim that has been lied to, betrayed, misunderstood and cast aside? Do you see someone who has fallen short? Do you see defeat?
...Or do you see what I see? Beauty is a state of mind, you know. So for beauty to spring forth from your mind, you must think it before you can see it. Read More...
Let me start by saying... it's not easy to pick yourself apart and take responsibility for your own peace of mind. There are so many easier things to blame. Frequently in my life, I've allowed jealousy to distract me from what's really missing within myself. I can't tell you how difficult and liberating it is for me to admit this. This is part of my shadow, and as I explore it, it becomes less scary and more beautiful to me.
Jealousy has manifested itself as insecurity in my relationships with friends, family and lovers. No matter how much I am loved and supported by loved ones, I still hear that small voice that doubts and tries to chip away at my joy.
As relationships have evolved, grown and dissipated in my life, I've found myself questioning why. Instead of letting life flow on naturally, I resist and I look for meaning in the changes to somehow indicate that I'm lacking something. "Why did this person stop talking to me? Why did we grow apart? Why is he reaching out to her and not me? Why does he have female friends? Does she like her new friend more than me? Why wasn't I invited to this?" In other words - I project my own self-doubt into my relationships and distort the normal growth and change of my relationships. Read More...
Breaking Through: 6 Stages to Personal Freedom
We like to cite our formal education, credentials and status because it makes us feel relevant and important. But a meaningful life can't be captured on paper, right? It's a very personal and intimate discovery of self that makes life truly fulfilling. This discovery isn't taught in the classroom, and many of us don't even realize that this is what life is really about. Eventually, we all encounter a moment where we have to face ourselves. In order to be fulfilled and connected to our purpose, we must come to understand our inner world as well as we understand the external world that we live in.
The following stages of self-discovery help us rediscover what is already real inside of us: unlimited self-confidence that is unaffected by people's opinions and not driven by the need for approval. The experience of these stages is unique to every individual, but the purpose is to become aware of yourself, your journey, and your power. Read More...
Are you documenting your journey in some way? If you're not...why not?!?!