Sunday, July 22, 2012 12:02 PM
Remember the post I wrote about self-promotion? I'm determined to get over this issue, so I did some research.
Kristi Hedges, the author of Power of Presence: Unlock Your Potential to Influence and Engage Others talks about getting comfortable with self-promotion by thinking of yourself as a vehicle for whatever message you are trying to spread. It's not about promoting yourself gratuitously for shallow reasons, it's about using the right platforms to promote ideas that matter to you.
I haven't read the entire book, but found out about it through Hedges' article: The Cure for People Who Hate to Self-Promote. The short article gave me some much needed perspective.
In Nathan Hangen's article, The Art of Shameless Self-Promotion, he talks about self-promotion vs. self-adulation. I've searched myself many times to find the source of my discomfort and I know part of it is the feeling that I'm being cheeky and obnoxious by constantly talking about what I'm doing and why you should care.
Hangen says, "The reason that self-promotion works and self-adulation doesn’t is because self-promotion is the art of spreading ideas, concepts, and a greater vision. Self-adulation is just the promotion of accomplishments, deeds that have already been done...
When you promote ideas, you give people something to cheer for... Your ideas might inspire hope, thought, or action . . . but as a general rule, good ideas inspire something."
I started writing and blogging because I felt that I could improve upon the silence around things that mattered to me like emotional health and inner beauty. As long as I remember why I'm doing what I'm doing, I can spread a very confident message and be succussful in finding the people who need to hear it.
It's not just what you do, it's how you do it. In order to become more confident and uninhibited about what I do, I came up with a few initiatives.
30 day photo challenge. Another vehicle for self-discovery and expression. Coming soon.
My first book. It will be a compilation of essays and will set the tone for the type of author I want to be.
Videos. Going completely out of my comfort zone, I'm planning to start doing video blogs occasionally to help me get over my fear of, well, talking. I'm fine talking one on one but having an audience freaks me out.
Public speaking. I want to be able to engage people through my verbal delivery as well as through writing. This doesn't come so naturally to me, so I have some work to do. Every instinct in me tells me that I'm going to need this skill to complement my writing.
I'm just going to keep stretching myself because this is what freedom feels like for me.
Have you stretched today?! Remember, the magic happens when you step outside of your comfort zone.